SOME SUPER RAD PALS OF MINE HAVE ORGANISED A CROWDFUNDER TO HELP OUR AMAZING FRIEND LINKA WITH THE ADDED DAY TO DAY COSTS OF BEING DISABLED AND CURRENTLY IN MENTAL HEALTH CRISIS
PLEASE SIGNAL BOOST THE HECK OUTTA THIS, SHARE ELSEWHERE, AND DONATE SOMETHING, HOWEVER SMALL, IF YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES ALLOW
From the gofundme page:
Being disabled costs a crap-load of money.
Right now, our pal Linka is facing an epic mental health crisis. They can’t get through the day without a lot of medication. They can’t spend any time on their own. They can’t go to work.
Sadly, their job has decided to dock their pay by 50%, for the sheer audacity of (shock! horror!) being disabled. Without this money, they won’t be able to afford rent, bills or basic necessities for self-care.
This would be terrible at the best of times, but this crisis has extra costs too: taxis to get to medical appointments and safe places without mental health meltdowns, prescriptions for new meds, extra electricity bills from spending more time at home, having to buy new comfy clothes and bedding for extended periods in bed…
There’s no way of knowing how long this crisis will last. We’re rallying round and providing practical support the best we can for our pal and their carer – being around during the day, running errands, cooking food – but we don’t have an extra salary lying around. It will be a long time until they’re back in the normal routine of life and work.
Linka and their carer really need your help too. A mental health crisis is life-threatening and stressful enough on its own without the added dangers of a financial crisis.
Please, donate as much as you can today.
HERE’S THE LINK AGAIN!
Thank you for boosting & helping if you can! xxxxSo yeah, this is actually for me. I’m having a total crisis mental health wise and the finance stuff isn’t helping. If you could donate or signal boost that would be awesome xxx
this is my pal. they legit need the money. their job is being a minor dick to them if they cut their wage :X give if you can, share if you can’t?
Due to the popularity of our first zine, Fucked: On Being Sexually Dysfunctional in Sex Positive Queer Scenesand our Can’t Fuck/ Won’t Fuck discussions in London and Brighton we are currently looking for contributions for our second zine, Too Fucked, Too Furious.
Contributions can be prose (probably not more than one side of A4 typed), poetry, illustrations etc. Please email your contribution to email@example.com by Nov 1st. All entries will be published anonymously.
For a bit of inspiration have a look at the event description used for our Can’t Fuck/ Won’t Fuck discussions:
Have you ever felt left out or alienated by sex-positivity and the way it plays out in your interpersonal relationships or in the spaces where you hang out? Have you ever felt pressure to feel/perform desire, to be (or be seen to be) sexually active, to have relationships or date people, to do non-monogamy (or to do it in a specific way), to have fulfilling/pleasurable sex or to have certain kinds of sex?
Do you feel like sex-positivity often ignores the reality of living, and trying to be sexual, in a racist ableist cissexist hetero-patriarchal rape culture? Have you ever felt like consent shouldn’t be framed in terms of sexiness? Does your queer or feminist community fail to make space for people on the asexual and aromantic spectrums?
When most of the queer and feminist spaces we have access to are explicitly sex-positive and/or centred around hooking up, talking about sex-negative or sex-critical feelings can often make us feel like kill-joys, pissing on everyone else’s sexually liberated parade.
This discussion aims to provide a safer space in which to talk about the above questions. We will also be exploring ways in which our queer and feminist communities can be more inclusive of those who can’t fuck, won’t fuck, don’t fuck, or who choose to only fuck some of the time.
(via Four Eyes Comic Strip, September 26, 2014 on GoComics.com)
Isn’t it sad that, before you even think of criticising something “on the internet”, you have to make sure you have the time and energy to deal with the inevitable backlash? Isn’t it especially sad that this is almost always the case when the subject of criticism is a scene that claims over and over again to be “inclusive”?
This is something that has been going on almost every week lately in regards to DIY. I guess that means more people are now willing to call out things they feel are unfair, which is great, but the inevitable battle that ensues can also be incredibly upsetting and disheartening. For some reason, whenever anybody voices their concern over something – whether it’s artwork, merchandise or behaviour at shows – it is met with immediate backlash. It happened when Alanna from Joanna Gruesome called out the Nai Harvest artwork, it happened when Joyce Manor called out certain behaviour at their shows, and it happened today after I said this Avida Dollars shirt was crap.
I didn’t get anywhere near the amount of shit others have had to deal with, but this is an issue I feel really strongly about and can’t really respond to within a designated character space. So here it is:
“Bro mentality” is a real concern of mine. It is, by its very nature, ostracising to women and young girls who often end up being the collateral damage for some arsehole’s freedom to stage dive feet first. It’s also inherently dominant, which means that whatever those people choose to do dictates the atmosphere of the show. As it stands, the general mood is that if you’re not comfortable with it, you should leave. Don’t go to the shows anymore. Stop supporting the bands you enjoy because the minority aren’t willing to put their own needs aside for one second to consider the personal comfort of everybody else. I appreciate that some of the bands associated with these kinds of shows don’t consider themselves to be a part of “bro culture”, but that doesn’t mean they don’t support it inadvertently.
The reason I called out the shirt is because I felt like it was a kick in the face to everyone who has ever felt uncomfortable at a show where the front-middle of the venue is a pile of sweaty, topless (mostly) men rolling over one another. The Art Is Hard birthday party at the Shacklewell was a prime example of that happening. Yes, it was a super great event and those who run Art Is Hard are wonderful human beings, but there was a point in the evening when literally everyone around me was rolling their eyes or laughing at the absurdity of some of the things that were going on – and all of those people rolling their eyes with me were men. Similarly, some of the people disagreeing with my stance on “toplessness” were women.
This isn’t a binary gender issue. This isn’t about treading lightly around women or treating them like “delicate flowers”, it’s about having some fucking respect for the people who buy your records, tour with you, put you on a bill, do your PR, your artwork and/or come to support you at shows that might not appreciate being faced with dialogue like “anybody who still has their shirt on is not my friend”. In fact, the only reason I saw the Avida Dollars shirt in the first place is because a male friend of mine flagged it up as rubbish. The band did point out that the shirt was meant to be a joke, a parody of “masochism” (I think they meant misogyny) – but if the “shirts off” attitude is something you accept, promote and enjoy at your shows then it can’t possibly be classed as parody, that’s just your thing. And that’s cool if that’s their thing, but the joke doesn’t work…unless their whole existence as a band is a parody of that culture. Maybe the joke would be funny if it weren’t for the connotations. Maybe the joke would be funny if the punchline wasn’t the expense of everybody who has ever retreated slowly to the back or side of the room to make way for a brawl of humans who simply must be topless.
Don’t get me wrong, nudity is fucking brilliant. If you want to take your top off, go for it. My nipples are all over the bloody internet so this argument is purely contextual. I go to queer nights a lot, which, for anybody who hasn’t experienced them, are literally entire rooms full of butt naked sweaty men slut-dropping to Nicki Minaj. Do you know why I go to these club nights? Because I always feel safe there. Do I always feel safe at punk shows? No, because the environment is totally different and everybody should be mindful of that.
When the majority of people on stage or in the audience are (white, cis) male then that can have an effect on people. And though I understand that’s not anybody’s fault or responsibility to fix, I do believe that large numbers tend to take that for granted and have trouble appreciating the concerns that lie outside of their own privilege. To a certain extent, that’s nobody’s fault, but it does require some extra thought. We live in a culture of perpetual arse-kissing, back slapping and “liking”, so perhaps the immediate reaction to negativity being defence is a generational thing. Or maybe it’s just laziness. Either way, nobody should be made to feel unwelcome in the space they should rightly associate with security, and they certainly shouldn’t be told to quietly leave the space if they disagree with certain elements of it. For some people, music is their home, it’s where they feel safe, so telling someone to fuck off out of a venue if they don’t like what’s going on is like kicking someone out of their own house so you can shit on their carpet.
No, you can’t please everyone and it’s difficult in this case to make compromises without ending up policing, which would obviously suck, but do you know what would be a massive leap towards making things better? Actually taking a second out of your life to consider that something you do might make somebody else uncomfortable before immediately jumping on the defence every time you’re faced with criticism. Being at the receiving end of torrents of aggression and vehement disagreement isn’t something people willingly seek out, so when something is said, it isn’t done so flippantly – it is with full knowledge that the scene will gang up immediately to defend itself, and, above all the questionable merchandise, artwork or shirt-removing, that’s what needs to stop.
To anybody – young women in particular – who has ever felt put off by this typical reaction to something as simple as having an opinion, I’ll leave you with these words from Alanna McArdle that came in the wake of “Nai-gate 2k14”: you are important, and you deserve to be listened to.
For the original story, see for example The Guardian. This is a response from Palestinian LGBTQ organisation Al-Qaws.
We are concerned that by isolating homosexuality as the main and most troubling target of the Israeli intelligence apparatus, as recently disclosed, one is ignoring the comprehensive stranglehold that this militarized colonial regime has on the lives and privacy of Palestinians throughout the occupied country.
Blackmailing and extorting an individual on the basis of their sexuality for mainstream LGBT rights framing is a seriously damning act of totalitarian oppression. Concentrating on this alone, however, does allow recognition of a hierarchy of priorities in which Palestinians are expected to acquiesce unquestioningly.
Indeed sexuality in its totality (including and not just limited to homosexuality) in Palestine is socially, politically and psychologically significant – but only the symptom of a much larger cancer. It cannot be singled out as a supreme priority vis-a-vis access to healthcare, disruption of freedom of movement, bribery, exposure of marital infidelities, financial blackmail, drug use or any other form of extortion. All eventually amount to systematic and premeditated violence.
The danger in singling out homosexuality only strengthens narratives of pinkwashing, where one could only exist as a secret homosexual person in Palestine, always worried about his/her/their outing, and having to look to Israel as the all-powerful and all-knowing entity capable of making or unmaking that life. Falling prey to this logic only entrenches a false binary that actively frames Palestine and Palestinians as homophobic versus Israel and Israelis as sexually tolerant and liberal.
We notice, and are dismayed and worried, that some critiques of, and approaches towards, this revelation practices by the Israeli Intelligence Unit 8200, have a disappointed tone of voice, as if trying to say, ‘Behave Israel, we know you are better than this.’ This is only misleading. The fact is that Israel is a totalitarian military colonial power that has no good intention towards any Palestinian lives it controls and such practices of entrapment are central to (even constitutive of) the fabric of the Israeli Military state.
Israeli Military intelligence is well aware that by using sexuality as tool of extortion and entrapment, it also strengthens this fabricated link between non-heteronormative sexualities, practices and identities and Israeli Colonial Oppression in the eyes of the general Palestinian people. The linking of sexuality with Palestinian collaborators has become a word and a subjectivity of its own in the Palestinian imaginary and reality known as isqatat.
In our struggle, we are constantly seeking to dismantle and resist this oppressive stereotype. Therefore, simplistic and reductionist approaches to sexuality in Palestine and Israeli oppression, although intentionally seeking to expose Zionist Israel, unwittingly facilitate this discourse, rather than disrupting pinkwashing.
In other words, Israel is interested in portraying Palestinian sexuality in any form that transgresses the confines of the heteronormative institution (conventional marriage), as being in some form linked to Israel. In the case of there being any positive progress in the Palestinian sexual movement, Israel will rush to take the credit. Should there be any regression, Israel will still make use of the situation by stigmatizing and exploiting Palestinians and coming out as the only protagonist for sexual rights and tolerance.
All in all, Zionism is the only winner in such dialectics.
'Why Are They So Hostile?!': Trans* Community and the Brown Threat -
"People of colour call out racism; racists respond with racist sentiment and a great effort to shut down the argument; admins and other authority figures attempt to calm the situation by speaking of “two sides” (and not racialising either despite it clearly being POC vs. whites); POC in question recognise the silencing mechanisms and respond with further anger; whites use every quietly racist bone in their bodies to tarnish the reputation of POC as a collective group; authority figures delete any remaining source of anger and release a statement on safe spaces…"
Uncovering White Trans Laziness -
It’s true, I’m a defector. I’m turned in my Racial Badge for a slightly-less-radical badge that reads ‘Unapologetic Stonewall Sympathiser’, and I’ve torn up my Radical Trans ID that I specifically use to get into Radical Trans Events.
I took part in the #TransStonewall meeting, and I liked it. Sue me…
Great post from Jade about how Stonewall’s reaching out to trans people, and the failures of white trans people to support getting in more TPOC.
Anonymous said: these anons are like, "can i be racist in the rain? can i be racist on a train? can i be racist in a box? can i be racist with a fox?"
How can I be racist if I work with blacks
How can I be racist if one sold me slacks
I’m not racist I’m just like you. I’m best friends with a black or two.
i’m not racist, you see, it’s just a preference
i love eastern culture and its women’s deference
the west lost its way with no room for clemency
If I love Asian women, how’s that white supremacy?
i’m not a racist, i can’t be, you see
my great grandma’s grandma was part cherokee
plus one time i got called “cracker” to my face
don’t we all bleed red? i don’t even see race…
I’m not racist, blacks just need to stop complaining
Living in the past and white people blaming
I work hard, no handouts for every little fraction
If white privilege isn’t fair, then how is affirmative action?
I’m not racist man, I’m just right-wing
Plus reverse-racism is totally a thing
It’s not about power check the definition
Slavery wasn’t an evil thing, just asset acquisition.
How come I can’t say “nigga”, it just means brotha!
And ain’t I a brotha from anotha motha?
I didn’t use the ‘er’- so its a total difference.
You blacks give good white people such hindrance :(
'We can't handle spicy foods' ? Your jokes make me sad
See, if I joked and called you a “nigger”, you’ll be mad
You black people think we are always out here to ruin your day
Look, 'not all white people', …mmkay?
I can say “nigga” ‘cause of freedom of speech
And y’all always forget what MLK preached!
White privilege ain’t real ‘cause my life is hard
If you want to stop racists, don’t play the race card
Blacks can oppress. Shoot, they’ve oppressed me
I was the only white kid and the blacks were so mean
So I called one a nigger, but clicked anon first
yeah racism is real, but like… I’ve had it worst.
this the best post ever