There’s a growing problem in the queer community right now of women identifying folk fetishizing trans men not only sexually but also as the better kind of man compared to cis men.
I don’t claim to talk for all trans men everywhere, and I’m open to the idea that I’m completely wrong about this, but it’s a problem I’ve seen and personally experienced within the community and I think it bares discussion.
Let’s talk about the sexual aspect first; queer women love fetishizing trans men. It’s no secret in the community. Pretty much every trans man I’ve ever met who’s involved in the queer community can identify that. From what I can understand this is because we’re seen as the ultimate butches. I once had an annoying encounter with a drag queen who asserted that all trans men are lesbians, like once you hit the max level of being a lesbian you just decide to become a man.
this comes up every now and again (e.g. for the AFem2014 conference in London, remember?)
I think it’s to the credit of trans men/trans masculine ppl that they so frequently remind people how problematic they can be ;)